Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me."Matthew 16:24 (cf Matthew 10:38, Mark 8:34, Luke 9:23, Luke 14:27)
is it:
- follow Jesus, even to the point of death?
- forget who you are, think only of the crucified Christ?
- to follow Jesus is to count your life as cursed?
i always thought the third, but realise others feel quite differently about it. mind you, i've never thought super-deeply about which it is.
compounded with that, there is (at the very least) an element of truth in each of my options.
there may of course be other readings.